Beware of Controlling Type Persons
But Jesus called them to Himself and said, “You know that the rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and those who are great exercise authority over them. Yet it shall not be so among you; but whoever desires to become great among you, let him be your servant. (Matthew 20:25-26)
“Never pay back evil for evil to anyone. Respect what is right in the sight of all men. If possible, so far as it depends on you, be at peace with all men” (Rom 12:17-18)
A controlling person often exhibits behaviors aimed at dominating others, maintaining power, or ensuring situations unfold according to their preferences. These characteristics can manifest in various contexts, such as relationships, workplaces, or social interactions. Here are some common traits:
Emotional Characteristics
• Manipulative: Uses guilt, fear, or flattery to influence others' decisions or actions.
• Insecure: Struggles with self-esteem issues and seeks control to compensate.
• Fearful of Uncertainty: Has difficulty dealing with situations they cannot predict or influence.
Interpersonal Characteristics
• Isolating Others: Discourages or sabotages relationships with friends or family to maintain control.
• Possessive: Displays jealousy or acts territorial over people or resources.
• Conditional Affection: Offers approval or love only when others conform to their expectations.
• Punitive: Uses punishment or withdrawal of support as a means to enforce compliance.
Communication Characteristics
• Gaslighting: Distorts reality to make others doubt their perceptions or feelings.
• Withholding Information: Controls narratives by selectively sharing or hiding information.
